When you want your ex back, it can seem rather difficult to make those decisions that can help you in achieving this goal. This is especially true when you have no idea where to begin to earn back their trust and love. For starters, you need to know the top 3 mistakes that are commonly made during a breakup so you can avoid making these mistakes. They are: drunken dialing, text-message terrorism and the endless slump.
Breakup Mistakes Number (1) - Drunken Dialing
What is Drunken Dialing actually? You know those times that you drink and drink excessively and you call your ex in the middle of the night, trying to plead your case, begging for another chance, hoping you win them over and they come back to you? That is drunken dialing. It's very common for those who just broke up to have this happen. Understand though, it doesn't help your case and in fact, can destroy any chances of a reconciliation down the road. God forbid if your ex actually picks up the phone in your drunken state. You'll be a big ball of mess and he or she probably won't be able to understand a single word of what you are trying to convey. You don't want to have the same issue on his or her voicemail/answering machine either. Drinking is okay when done in moderation but it's best to avoid any of this if you want your ex back.
Breakup Mistakes Number (2) - Text Message Terrorism
This is similar to drunken dialing only there is no alcohol involved. What this entails is your repeated attempts to get a hold of your ex through means of telephone, e-mail, cell phone and text messages.В If you are trying to win him or her back, this isn't the way because the phone doesn't stop ringing and the inbox is always full.
If you haven't already guessed, this is the perfect way to ruin the relationship chance. By doing this, you are conveying the message that you are a psycho and he or she will probably be sick and tired of hearing about you, hearing from you and even hearing your name. They are likely to duck if they see you coming after you have done this. If you have done just that but not to that extreme, you may still have a chance to redeem yourself. However, continue this and you may as well move on yourself.
Breakup Mistakes Number (3) - The Endless Slump
Have you ever felt like life wasn't worth living anymore? Have you ever felt like staying in bed because you just couldn't face the day? Has this feeling dragged on and on with what seems no end in sight? This is the feeling of being in an endless slump. You never go out to work or school. You don't want to hang with your friends (your friends can cheer you up). Sitting up home seems more fun than going out. You'd rather watch lovesick movies and cry all the time. Of all the behaviors listed, the endless slump is the worst thing to go through. This slump completely ruins your chances of getting your ex back but you can lose everything that meant anything in your life including your friends, your family, your job, and your schooling. Your health could even be at stake. If you notice this happening to you, it's imperative you break the cycle immediately. You need to continue living your life even if it has altered a bit.
When you want your ex back, you need to stop any damaging behaviors before the repercussions take shape. You can salvage what dignity you have left and try to achieve your ultimate goal which is to get your ex back. However, make sure you have a plan before you do this.
Saturday, July 17, 2010
Monday, May 3, 2010
With the Internet it has never been easier to meet people who want to cheat or have an affair.
This can be a nightmare for those who suspect that their lover is cheating on them. Are they just working on the computer? What are they doing on there? Who are they talking too?
In this article were going to take a look at some signs to look for.
Sign #1: Spending All Night On The Computer
This is the first and most obvious sign. If your lover is on the computer late at night chatting then you may want to look into this a little bit more. This is a big concern when it occurs regularly or on certain days of the week.
Sign #2: Bills To Online Services
It pays to check bank statements and credit card statements. Most of these online services use very discrete billing names. You might want to do a little research into some of these names online to find out what they really are.
Sign #3: Frantic Mouse Clicking
When you enter the room you may hear some very frantic mouse clicking. This is so they can hide what ever it is that they were doing. This holds even more true if you hear lots of typing before you enter the room.
Sign #4: The Need For A Scanner Or Digital Camera
If they are cheating online the other party is going to want to see what they look like. So if out of nowhere they buy a scanner or digital camera look out. Of course they could buy one for another reason, but that is just something you should keep in mind.
Sign #5: Signing Up To Multiple Email Accounts
This is a fairly good sign. But there is one problem. What is it? How do you find out if your lover has signed up for multiple accounts? The only way you can tell is if they forget to logout or have some spy software on their computer.
Sign #6: Their Surfing History
If they don't delete their history you can find out what sites they have been on. Most will be clever enough to cover their tracks though. The way around this is to get yourself some good spy software.
Sign #7: Won't Let You Use Their Computer
Will your lover not let you use their computer? Have they gotten a new one just for themselves? Have they gotten you one of your own. This could be a way to keep you away from theirs.
Sign #8: Passwords & Logins
This one that few people think of. Have they recently set up their own user account on the family computer? Have they changed passwords so others can't log into their account? This is just another thing you should be on the look out for.
Sign #9: Is The Door Closed?
Do they always need their privacy when they are online? Do they lock themselves in a room with the computer? Do they keep the door shut?
Sign #10: Installs A New Internet Browser
Has your lover recently installed a new browser for surfing? This could be a way from them to cover the tracks. You might use one Internet browser while they use a different one you have never heard of.
Conclusion
By themselves this signs don't mean your lover is cheating. It becomes more of a concern when you start to see many different signs. So make sure you have good proof before you start making any accusations.
In this article were going to take a look at some signs to look for.
Sign #1: Spending All Night On The Computer
This is the first and most obvious sign. If your lover is on the computer late at night chatting then you may want to look into this a little bit more. This is a big concern when it occurs regularly or on certain days of the week.
Sign #2: Bills To Online Services
It pays to check bank statements and credit card statements. Most of these online services use very discrete billing names. You might want to do a little research into some of these names online to find out what they really are.
Sign #3: Frantic Mouse Clicking
When you enter the room you may hear some very frantic mouse clicking. This is so they can hide what ever it is that they were doing. This holds even more true if you hear lots of typing before you enter the room.
Sign #4: The Need For A Scanner Or Digital Camera
If they are cheating online the other party is going to want to see what they look like. So if out of nowhere they buy a scanner or digital camera look out. Of course they could buy one for another reason, but that is just something you should keep in mind.
Sign #5: Signing Up To Multiple Email Accounts
This is a fairly good sign. But there is one problem. What is it? How do you find out if your lover has signed up for multiple accounts? The only way you can tell is if they forget to logout or have some spy software on their computer.
Sign #6: Their Surfing History
If they don't delete their history you can find out what sites they have been on. Most will be clever enough to cover their tracks though. The way around this is to get yourself some good spy software.
Sign #7: Won't Let You Use Their Computer
Will your lover not let you use their computer? Have they gotten a new one just for themselves? Have they gotten you one of your own. This could be a way to keep you away from theirs.
Sign #8: Passwords & Logins
This one that few people think of. Have they recently set up their own user account on the family computer? Have they changed passwords so others can't log into their account? This is just another thing you should be on the look out for.
Sign #9: Is The Door Closed?
Do they always need their privacy when they are online? Do they lock themselves in a room with the computer? Do they keep the door shut?
Sign #10: Installs A New Internet Browser
Has your lover recently installed a new browser for surfing? This could be a way from them to cover the tracks. You might use one Internet browser while they use a different one you have never heard of.
Conclusion
By themselves this signs don't mean your lover is cheating. It becomes more of a concern when you start to see many different signs. So make sure you have good proof before you start making any accusations.
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